restful placeBecoming. It’s the word that best describes my process in the last few years. I am becoming.

One of my friends who has known me for a while recently sought words to describe what he wanted to articulate to me about the changes he’d seen in my life.  “It’s not that you’re doing more, but you’re becoming more.” 
Ah, yes, he nailed it. You see, I spent many years on the “doing” treadmill. I had a daily checklist a mile long. You’d be amazed what I could “do” in a day. 
In fact, I rarely rested. You might have called me a workaholic if you’d been close enough to know me. 
I never, and I repeat, never, (well, almost never) watched television or a movie. I never took a day just to lounge around and read a book. My idea of a great afternoon was one in which I could organize a part of my world or my church or help someone else in some significant way. My idea of pleasure was a check list, completed and marked off.
And it’s not that those things are bad in and of themselves. They were just bad for me because I was out of balance.
When God’s intervention and man’s worst plans collided, my life went down the tubes like the last little bit of water being sucked down the drain of a tub. 
I tried all my “go to” methods and strategies to rescue my life but they had all gotten up and gone.
I found myself at the bottom of what seemed to be a black pit, depressed, and defeated. Getting out of that pit took some time and a lot of love from some dear friends.
Orienting to a new kind of life was strange to say the least. It was kinda like the way you feel after spinning around and around until you dizzily fall down and have no idea which way is up or down or north or south or east or west. Perhaps the best way to describe the process was that God reinvented me.
I’ve learned to enjoy and to be enjoyed. 
And I’ve become. says that becoming is any process of change or any change that involves the realization of potentialities, as a movement from the lower level of potentiality to the higher level of actuality.
I’ve found that becoming is much better than doing. I’ve begun to learn how to live from a place of rest, where what I actually do put on my checklist is primarily from a place of desire and balance as opposed to obligation or false needs to impress anyone.
I’ve given up my self-appointed position of savior of my local world and my family and I’ve figured out how to let everyone be responsible for their own lives. I’ve learned how to say no. 
Oh, I still have moments when I am tempted to rely on my old mechanisms, but I have some dear friends and accountability partners and a husband who remind me when I try to put my Superwoman cape back on that it didn’t really work for me.
And it won’t work for you either. 
You see, I figured this one out the hard way. When we become Christians, God enters into a covenant with us that says He will continue working in our lives until He conforms us into the image of Christ Jesus, who was all about doing all that he did from a place of rest and “being” the son of God. Yet we often get trapped into a cycle of doing that has nothing to do with being His child and everything to do with being important or impressive or necessary.
Will you join me in becoming?  
Matthew 11:29 (The Message)
 28-30"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly."


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  1. Song says:

    It’s been a pretty remarkable process to observe (from way on the outside). I love to hear you minister now. I’ve noticed a true difference in the way you speak while in front of the church. You’ve become…dynamite! 😉

  2. kathy norman says:

    …Learn the unforced rythms of grace….I remember the first time M.C. read that over Tom and I in his little office in Colorado during the marriage intensive week we had with him….it’s true. I’ve often felt that God leads, Satan pushes. This is a beautiful inspiring piece and I couldn’t resist responding. Once again you’ve blown fresh wind into my sails. It is most BECOMING!

  3. Cathleen says:

    “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

    Well Mikki, I am sure you are NOT shabby, but I know you are REAL. Love ya!

  4. Mikki says:

    Thanks all! Cathleen, I just read that this week! Aww, you all are my best cheerleaders.

  5. Natalie says:

    God led met to your blog tonight for a reason. Your words are like a breath of fresh air that God is blowing over me. Thank you for “becoming”, and thank you for sharing the words God has placed in your heart.

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