http://mikkiblogs.com/beyond-blame/ Spiritual encouragement - relationship with God Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:34:11 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://mikkiblogs.com/beyond-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-778 Susi Mon, 14 Jun 2010 04:05:22 +0000 http://mikkiblogs.com/2010/06/11/beyond-blame/#comment-778 I really want blame to work. It frightens me that I am so invested in making it work! If it would just work, I reason, it would solve everything! No more having to work through stuff, no more need for insight, no feeling any pain but the pain of being a victim, and that is someone else's fault, so I can justify however I might want to respond. For example, "...that woman you gave me, she made me do it!" How could God be against me blaming others? After all, they were wrong! He wants me comfortable, right? Oops! I mean he wants me happy, right? Oops, again! No to all of the above! He wants me HIS! I can never be completely HIS and available to him if I am living in a delusion that I am above the fray--not guilty on all counts--while making everyone else responsible for my misery! When I rely on blame to make my world work, I am the hostage of my circumstances. "Look what he did!" "Can you believe what she said!" "I don't deserve this!" We sing that victim chorus over and over. God is much too jealous and invested in our being HIS (imparting his character to us) to let us stay there. Our true refuge is not in blaming, but in truth --it is in the constant recognition of his unconditional love, abiding under the shadow of his wing. I really want blame to work. It frightens me that I am so invested in making it work! If it would just work, I reason, it would solve everything! No more having to work through stuff, no more need for insight, no feeling any pain but the pain of being a victim, and that is someone else’s fault, so I can justify however I might want to respond. For example, “…that woman you gave me, she made me do it!” How could God be against me blaming others? After all, they were wrong! He wants me comfortable, right? Oops! I mean he wants me happy, right? Oops, again! No to all of the above! He wants me HIS! I can never be completely HIS and available to him if I am living in a delusion that I am above the fray–not guilty on all counts–while making everyone else responsible for my misery! When I rely on blame to make my world work, I am the hostage of my circumstances. “Look what he did!” “Can you believe what she said!” “I don’t deserve this!” We sing that victim chorus over and over. God is much too jealous and invested in our being HIS (imparting his character to us) to let us stay there. Our true refuge is not in blaming, but in truth –it is in the constant recognition of his unconditional love, abiding under the shadow of his wing.

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