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May
30

The Unexpected Gift of Brokenness

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brokenness2Most churches are guilty of selling Christianity as a pain-free existence. We might not come out and say it, but the message oftentimes is, ‘Accept Christ and all your problems will disappear.’  Believers later find themselves disillusioned when after following Christ and finding that life is difficult. Some throw in the proverbial towel and try to walk away from anything and everything that smacks of God. Others get stuck in the process and become bitter yet they’re still present in body. And yet, there are those who embrace, with varying amounts of struggle, the process of becoming conformed to Christ’s death (Philippians 3:10).

In much the same way that the sacrificial animals of the Old Testament days did not go willingly to the altar, most of us go kicking and screaming to the altar of the death of our own flesh. We smell death in the air and we RESIST.

Paul challenged us in Phil. 3 that in order to know Christ and the power of his resurrection, we also must know the fellowship of his sufferings and be conformed to his death. Wow, we think, “Did I really sign-up for that? I didn’t see that in the fine print. Is there an opt-out?”

This fellowship of his suffering and conformity to his death is the process of brokenness. The taming of the human soul.

An unbroken person is unable to live in the mysteries of God. Unwilling to accept the difficult challenges. Endlessly stuck in the questioning process (which is good and acceptable in its right place but must eventually be laid on the altar, too.)

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Deep thought (1) When I meditate on this topic, I have the feeling that this will be a long train running. Although my thoughts may be jumping around like popcorn popping, I hope and trust that when the popping stops, it will all fit.

One of the thoughts I have proposed in these blogs is that in the process of God restoring our souls, He uses difficult seasons of our lives and dark places like the ‘valley of the shadow of death’ and ‘the presence of our enemies’.

While I personally hate these dark places and resist them, God is not afraid of them. In fact, He is there with His rod and His staff to comfort me and guide me through them.

What happens during dark seasons that invites us into a deeper place of soul restoration?

I have found in my own life that difficulty has the potential, if I will but embrace it, to make me aware. Mindful. Conscious. Alert.

Job, a man who was declared by God Himself, to be His servant, with a heart like no one else alive on the earth at the time, blameless, upright, one who feared God and resisted evil, lived through a valley so dark that it leaves us struggling to explain God. One read through the book of Job either leads us to throw our Bible across the room or scramble to come up with a more palatable explanation of God’s ways than are evidenced in Job’s life.

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Feb
03

Getting to the Heart of Things

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heart A most terrifying and at the same time, comforting, thought is that Jesus knows our hearts.  When we face the truth about our own heart, we find two things. We find that, at times, our heart is desperately wicked, strays from God, and seeks our own way. Concurrently, we find that our heart is good and has been changed by God Himself. 

We have two natures. The Scripture refers to this as the old nature and the new nature.  Our journey with Christ invites us, with the Spirit’s help, to crucify the old nature and its desires and strengthen and feed the new nature.

This journey into our own hearts is initiated by God.  I have found that as I know more and more about the truth of my own heart and am able to name my own sin, struggles, and woundedness, I am able to find more of God’s heart.  In other words, the journey to know my true heart leads me deeper into knowing God’s heart and vice versa.

In John 21, we find an exchange between Jesus and Peter which has been the topic of many sermons, Bible lessons, and discussions. I’ve been meditating on this passage since last night. This morning, I kept feeling challenged by God that there was much more there than I’d seen before. I invited His Spirit to speak, to teach me, to open my eyes. 

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Dec
11

The Crucible of Deep Disappointment

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despairOn December 4, 2010, my husband and I watched Auburn play South Carolina in the college football SEC championship game. Since I am a huge University of Alabama fan, just watching the game was a reminder of my deep disappointment that Bama was not playing instead of Auburn.  However, after touching base with my personal counselor and getting some therapy, I was able to work through my feelings and watch the game anyway (just kidding!). 
 
Auburn was favored to win, yet the game was not too one-sided until the third quarter at which time Auburn began to blow South Carolina out of the water. When the score became Auburn 35, South Carolina 14, anyone watching could almost tangibly feel South Carolina become hopeless.  There was a definite turning point when disillusionment overcame South Carolina. And just in case you don’t know, the final score was Auburn 56, South Carolina 17, and I offer my congrats to Auburn.
 
I began to ponder this idea that there is a point at which disillusionment and disappointment become overwhelming. A point at which hopelessness sets in.  A point at which we feel that we are being crushed as in a crucible.
 
The writer of Proverbs puts it this way: Hope deferred makes the heart sick. (Proverbs 13:12).
 
The Message gives us this rendition, “Unrelenting disappointment leaves you heartsick.” 
 
If you have lived long enough, you have probably experienced this feeling. Heartsickness. Hopelessness. Disillusionment. Despair. Deep disappointment.
Sometimes this deep disappointment is in our own self. At other times, it is in other people, and if we are truthful, at times it is even with God Himself.
 
What leads us to such a place of desperation and how do we move through and past it? Following are a few of my thoughts on what leads us into deep despair.
 
1. Unfulfilled expectations. We have many expectations in our relationships. Many of them are unspoken and often, unconscious, but when they are unmet, we feel it. I think of Jesus’ disciples who expected the awesome exhilarating ride of his ministry to end with him setting up an earthly kingdom. Certainly they experienced overwhelming disillusionment and discouragement as they watched him die on the cross and be buried. 
 
2. Sin and its consequences lead us to despair, whether our or sin committed against us such as betrayal and broken trust.
 
3. Unmet needs, whether physical, financial, or emotional. 
 
4. Pain and suffering.
 
How can we move beyond despair, disillusion, and disappointment?  Here are some principles that I have found to help.
 
1. Find strength from the Word of God and His Spirit.
 
2. Look for the handiwork of God in it. I admit that sometimes it is almost impossible to see where God is in desperate times. Yet God has redemptive purposes in every situation. Pain and suffering open us up to carry more of God’s heart and His ever expanding plans.
 
3. Stay connected to people who care.  During difficult seasons of our lives, we need the loving care of others to help us. Even as I say that, I know that some of you are crying, “But I don’t have anyone who cares!” I so long for that to not be true for anyone! I have stopped and prayed for you at the moment I am writing this. 
 
4. Be kind to your own heart. Sometimes we are pretty tough on ourselves, believing that we should be “doing better”, and while self-pity can certainly creep in, there is an appropriate measure of kindness that we can give ourselves. The truth is that some days, weeks, months, and even years are just plain ole difficult. One honest look at the Bible gives plenty of examples of God’s people going through difficulty.
 
5. Resist the “quick fix” mentality. While my heart wishes that I could make all your problems disappear immediately, I know that much of the deep work of God in my own life has come during the darkness, the trials, and times of suffering. None of us would wish to stay in tough times, but if you find yourself there, know that God is faithful and if He has chosen not to deliver you immediately, He will walk with you as you travel through the valley.
 
6. Be honest.  Honestly offering God your anger, doubts, fears, and even complaints, is, well, HONEST. God is honest. He can work with your honesty. Acting “religious” and pretending that we are not struggling is not helpful. God is bigger than our doubts and struggles. He is committed to working ALL things together for our good. 
 
7. Know that much of the life of faith is unseen, unknown, and takes us down paths where we’ve never traveled before. The writer of Hebrews tells us that faith is the evidence of things not seen.
 
8. Hang onto the prophetic glimpses that you have been given into your future. When Adam and Eve were banished from the Garden, God gave them prophetic hope for the future. When Joseph was in prison, I believe he held onto the prophetic dreams that God had given him years before.  Many times we have glimpses into what we believe God has shown us for our future. We often misinterpret those prophetic glimpses. They become increasingly clear over time.
 
If you find yourself unable to believe, read the Word, or offer any prayer to God, He is still on the throne. He is still able to do more than you can imagine. He is able to carry you when you have nothing left.  I’ve been there before. I can testify to you that it all did not depend upon me and my strength. God is strong, loving, committed, faithful, and is not offended by our despair. He often brings us to the end of ourselves in order to reveal Himself as the true lover of our very soul. The crucible of discouragement brings us to the core of who we are and what we believe about who God is, and it is in that place that true transformation can occur. 

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Oct
19

Treasure Within

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I recently cited the following quote on my Facebook status: Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; your purpose when you are confused.

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