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Jan
12

Unmasking the Power of Shame

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Quick. Name the 3 most shame filled moments of your life. The moments when you wanted to crawl under the table and hide. When your face turned red and your heart felt a rush of intense pain that flooded your entire body. Moments when you couldn’t look into the eyes of those around you.  The “I’m so stupid” moments. The “I’m a failure” moments. The moments of “I’m not enough”, “I’m too much”, “I’m too different”, “I’m completely powerless” or a million other variations of shame.

I bet you didn’t have trouble thinking of three, did you? In fact, your brain is still probably loading pages of information about your life.

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1.    It’s super important to talk about your deepest emotions with those you love. Intimate relationships require the risk of the deep sharing of thoughts and feelings and dreams and fears. 

2. It’s not my job to fix other people’s inner world and “fixing” often doesn’t feel like love to those we try to fix. 

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1.  Purposefully showed up when I was preaching and/or teaching.

2.     2.  Read my blog.

3.     3.  Loved me just as I am, and at the same time….

4.     4.  Encouraged me to keep changing and growing and be everything God has destined for me.

5.     5.  Consistently supported me with their love, financial support, smiles, words of encouragement, and by loving my husband and my kids      and my granddaughter.

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Oct
27

Friendship Hunger

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Twenty-nine years of pastoral ministry has robbed me of a lot. Sometimes when I look at “normal” Christians, aka those who are not in ministry, I envy them. My family has moved nine times in relation to ministry and/or ministry training/education. We’ve been a part of seven churches during these years. And while the normal Christianese clichés are true to an extent, like “All my moves have been moves up,” what’s also true is that that much mobility carries inherent costs. And trust me, this is not a “whoa is me” sermon. Ministry has also been the vehicle of some of the most incredible blessings of my life. I am simply reflecting today on one of the challenges inherent in the lives of those in ministry, the challenge of deeply rooted friendships.

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Feb
25

Do You Need a Friend?

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 “You just call out my name, and you know wherever I am, I’ll come running to see you again…” I awakened to the sounds of James Taylor singing in my head. With some good coffee in hand, I clicked my computer over to YouTube and listened to James. Ahh, the words are hauntingly beautiful. Beautiful, because they express a longing for which we were created. Haunting, because we often don’t live in the full reality of that kind of relationship.

One of the comments underneath the song provided a commentary of a broken heart, “This must have been written about a dog.”  We may all smile, but yet most of us know the feeling well for others have failed us in relationship and we have, also, failed in this way ourselves.

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