Archive for Real life issues

 

1.    It’s super important to talk about your deepest emotions with those you love. Intimate relationships require the risk of the deep sharing of thoughts and feelings and dreams and fears. 

2. It’s not my job to fix other people’s inner world and “fixing” often doesn’t feel like love to those we try to fix. 

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Nov
08

Keep Bleeding Love

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 “You cut me open and I keep, keep bleeding love.”

 Leona Lewis’s recording gave voice to strong sentiment for millions.

“Closed off from love, I didn’t need the pain.
Once or twice was enough, and it was all in vain.
Time starts to pass; before you know it you’re frozen.”

 Leona sings of how she’d cut her heart off from love after being hurt and disappointed in her relationships. As her story continues, she speaks of finding a new love and the risk of becoming vulnerable again.

“But nothing’s greater than the risk that comes with your embrace.
And in this world of loneliness, I see your face.”

Yet the lyrics hint of an unhealthiness in the new relationship. Friends warn her that she’s crazy. She tries to cut off the vein of her love, but yet she keeps bleeding love.

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Oct
27

Friendship Hunger

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Twenty-nine years of pastoral ministry has robbed me of a lot. Sometimes when I look at “normal” Christians, aka those who are not in ministry, I envy them. My family has moved nine times in relation to ministry and/or ministry training/education. We’ve been a part of seven churches during these years. And while the normal Christianese clichés are true to an extent, like “All my moves have been moves up,” what’s also true is that that much mobility carries inherent costs. And trust me, this is not a “whoa is me” sermon. Ministry has also been the vehicle of some of the most incredible blessings of my life. I am simply reflecting today on one of the challenges inherent in the lives of those in ministry, the challenge of deeply rooted friendships.

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Sep
11

Change, Change, and More Change

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 I’ve found myself in another season of change. It inevitably happens just about the time I take a deep breath and think I am in a place of rest.

I muse at times on this season I find myself in. It’s one of continuous change. Continuous transition. I used to read Ecclesiastes 3 and think it meant that you were either in one season or another, and yet I find myself in several of them all at one time.

It’s like a different kind of mid-life crisis. (Yes, I am claiming that this is my mid-life even though my numerical age might indicate otherwise. I will live to be at least 104 J, and no, my marriage is not in crisis.)

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Jun
02

Living with the Mysteries of God

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Heavy, almost tangible sorrow, along with a sense of shock, touched many in our area this week following the death of a young man who was involved in an automobile accident. 

Questions, both spoken aloud and spoken in the heart, filled the air. 

“Why?” and/or “Why God?” 

“What about our prayers?” 

Thoughts came, “He’s too young; he had such a destiny to fulfill!” 

We often feel a strong need for answers following such tragedy. We need it to make sense, fit in a neat theological box, something, anything to give us a way to wrap our hearts and minds around tragic events.

Some experience a crisis of faith; others refuse to even look at the issue of faith during crisis. They push the questions far away. 

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