How to Know If You Are a Truth Teller

liesThe ability to know the depths of one’s own heart is not a simple matter. As a follower of Christ, one of my core values is the desire to be an honest person. Yet at times, I don’t live and act in ways that are consistent with this core value. 
Am I saying that I am a liar? Yes, at times. Do I intend to be? No, yet at times I find myself living in the shadows of darkness, using subtle mind games to make myself more comfortable with the inconsistencies between what I believe and how I live.
There are moments, if I open my heart and soul before God, that I know I’ve manipulated someone else. There are moments when I know that I have protected myself from the discomfort of being completely honest. There are moments when I deceive my own heart in various ways.
Psalm 15:3 and Ephesians 4:15 mention speaking the truth in your heart.  It logically follows that if there is a way to speak the truth in our hearts, then there is also a way to not speak truth in our hearts. Stated another way, sometimes we lie to ourselves about our intentions and motivations for doing or saying something.
I have found a lot of pain in learning to speak the truth in my own heart. As I’ve looked deeply into my own stuff in the last few years, I have found that there were ways that I deceived my own heart. I’ve also discovered that I was, at times, in conflict with what my heart was speaking to me. 
Now please understand that these things were not intentional. The journey to know oneself in truth is just that, a journey. It happens over the span of a life. The true knowing of oneself is inextricably tied to knowing God. The more deeply we know God, the more deeply we can know ourselves and the more deeply we know ourselves, the more deeply we can know God.
Psalm 15 lists some ways that we can evaluate, with the Spirit’s help, whether or not we are living from a place of truth in our own hearts. 
1. We will have no need to slander others.
2. We will not purposefully harm our friends by doing wrong or evil towards them.
3. We will not “take up a reproach” against our neighbor. 
4. We will be able to judge others righteously, discerning between those who are vile and those who honor the Lord. In other words, we don’t have to be in relationship with everyone and support every idea or movement that comes through. We will be able to have spiritual understanding. 
5. We will keep our word, even when it would be more convenient not to.
6. We will not use our money (or position or influence or selfish desires) to take advantage of others. 
(Psalm 15: 1 LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle?
         Who may dwell in Your holy hill?          
 2 He who walks uprightly,
         And works righteousness, 
         And speaks the truth in his heart;
 3 He who does not backbite with his tongue,
         Nor does evil to his neighbor, 
         Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend;
 4 In whose eyes a vile person is despised,
         But he honors those who fear the LORD; 
         He who swears to his own hurt and does not change;
 5 He who does not put out his money at usury,
         Nor does he take a bribe against the innocent.          
         He who does these things shall never be moved.)
Ephesians 4:15 further tells us that this ability to speak truth is grounded in love and is a characteristic of someone who is a mature believer and is on a journey of personal growth. Verse 16 gives us further insight as it reminds us that we are all part of the same body. We are to honor each other by walking in deeply loving and truthful relationships.
(Ephesians 4:15-16…speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16 from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.)
Psalm 15 ends with the assurance that the person who is able to speak truth from their heart in righteous ways will never be moved or shaken. In other words, they are living from a sure foundation.
His Spirit is available to change us all and empower us to live in a place of maturity and growth. Being willing to face the truth about one’s own heart can be painful, but it is also profitable. 
God is inviting us to a more true knowing of our own hearts, not to condemn us but to free us. Will you ask Him to show you any shadows in your heart? Will you ask Him to help you live from a place of truth?


Related Articles:

Enjoy this post? Share it with your friends by clicking the Facebook LIKE button..

Powered By Facebook Like Post Plugin

Categories : Authenticity


  1. Cindy says:

    Oh Mikki,,,thank you so much for being real and honest in your blog,it’s so easy for me to fall into this type of thinking that I must be the only one who really struggles with not being able to tell the truth.I have an issue with it in fact.I don’t like to lie about anything,but I do lie because 1)I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings 2)I’m ashamed of my selfishness(another issue with me).There are so many things about me that I don’t like so therefore I have a hard time trying to love me or think that I’m “lovable.”Thank for doing this blog;I might not always comment on what you write,but I am a regular reader.I love you!:)

  2. kathy says:

    Dearest Mikki,
    Amen and Amen!
    It was a lovely afternoon spent here in my breakfast nook with you! 🙂
    Thank God for this technology and how He is using it through you!
    Much love,

  3. Alicia K says:


    I found your blog! Thank you for sharing your real and honest thoughts. I look forward to reading more of your posts. I miss you and hope to have lunch soon!


Leave a Reply