The 5 Series: The 5 Most Important Relational Truths I’ve Learned in the Last 5 Years



1.    It’s super important to talk about your deepest emotions with those you love. Intimate relationships require the risk of the deep sharing of thoughts and feelings and dreams and fears. 

2. It’s not my job to fix other people’s inner world and “fixing” often doesn’t feel like love to those we try to fix. 

3. When we don’t know what to do to help someone in pain or crisis, doing nothing is the wrong choice. Doing nothing can feel like abandonment or avoidance. When someone we care about is hurting and we do nothing, the message we send is at best, “You are not important to me.”
4. Beyond prayer, there are tangible ways that we can and should show people we care. Perhaps the most important things any of us can do during another person’s pain is simply to sit with a hurting friend, offering silent support instead of words of wisdom, or simply say we care, say we’re sorry they are hurting, or offer a hug. A call or a card or a note could be the encouragement they need to make it through the day. It’s not rocket science. It’s Christianity.
5. Being “true-faced”, even when it means talking through hurt or anger or disappointment, is vital to deepening a relationship, remembering that biblical “speaking the truth” is framed with the words “in love.”


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  1. I like this. Short, concise, but full of important content. Relationship issues are so critical to healthy spiritual living, and you touched on five important ones here. Good post.

    Warren Baldwin
    Family Fountain blog

  2. Mikki says:

    Thanks, Warren. I always enjoy your feedback. Thanks for all you do for others.

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